Out Of All The Jobs In All The Worlds...

 Everyday is dress and do what you want day

Society seems to look at motherhood and being a SAHM (stay at home mom) as something a person does because they have no other options. Why now, when it used to be something women were expected to do, is it treated as something so unworthy?

Why are women made to feel guilty for wanting to be a SAHM?

Out of all the jobs in all the worlds this is what I choose to do. Does that mean I have no other talents or desires? Not at all. It means that the desire and motivation to be a mother is greater than my want to do or be anything else. Does it mean I have no options because I'm a talent less lazy fuck? Absolutely not.

Being a SAHM requires a lot of knowledge, it's not for the stupid lazy people. What other job forces you to know some of everything?

I could be a writer; research and spend hours putting words to keyboard that would sound either eloquent or blatantly sexual (because really, I can do only the 2) or I could be an editor. I could go back to school for my Master's, because yes, even though I'm a lowly SAHM I have a bachelors degree. Not only that, but I earned nearly a 3.9 in my degree classes.

I don't want to.

What I woke up to the other morning :) 

Does that mean I'm a failure with no motivation?

No. It means that I CHOOSE to devote all of my time to raising the most important people in my life. I have to know how to cook - even if it's just whipping up a box of mac 'n' cheese. I have to drive, teach, entertain, counsel, discipline, and do a million (I literally mean a million) other things every single day for my children.

I run with them, roll on the floor, we exercise to dance videos and the kinect when it's rainy outside, I chased a baby who learned to walk at 9 months around because she was that independent, we go for walks up and down and up and down and up and down our driveway - so tell me again that I choose to stay at home because I'm lazy.

Sunny days are always celebrated

With my first I didn't have a husband or money so I wasn't allowed the luxury of staying home. I went to college as soon as she turned 10 days old and didn't finished until she was 4 1/2. With my second I've been home the entire time and I can safely say that I regret attending school. I regret not being home with my first and spending every second making her laugh or teaching her new things.

At the time it's what I had to do and I would come home and spend every second that I could with her. I would tell her about my day, ramble on about everything I happened to do and she would babble back and laugh at my exaggeration. Then she would sit beside me while I did homework and we would fall asleep together.

Always together.

When a woman stays at home she isn't just taking care of her children, she's also taking care of every other aspect of the house. In my case that's bills, searching for a better/different avenue of jobs for my husband, reminding him to do his homework, making sure he gets to work/class on time, filling out job applications and school papers for him, taking care of our year old dog, yard work, house work, and everything else that might possibly need done. As well as caring for a very needy baby.

I had to ask my boss about vacation time...

If I ask my husband to help out sometimes, maybe do dishes once a week because it's a chore that fills my bones with so much hatred I could fill hell, that's all right. The other thing people seem to do is make us SAHM's think we have to do every little thing with absolutely no help. Even my own family members tend to make me feel guilty and like I'm a terrible wife for expecting my husband to do a few things.

Since when did wanting him to pick up after himself like I ask of our SEVEN year old become a crime?

Seriously. Life is about so much judgement that a person can't make a single choice without someone hating on them for it. If I waited on my husband hand and foot, did everything for him and let him play games all day (as he does) then I would be bitched at for not making him be a responsible productive member of the household. For letting him walk all over me. 

I guess I've shifted away from the original point of the blog and into something a whole lot bigger. (Though to keep it on track, it's just more reasons being a SAHM means you aren't just lazy and stupid)

The point is that I love staying at home, through all the drama, the bullshit, the judging, the choices, the reprimands, this is best and most rewarding job of my life.

Who cares about looking stupid when you make your child laugh?

People also forget that to stay home means fun. You get to spend every moment with your children doing stupid things and laughing. And to be clear, making a child laugh can actually be a very difficult thing. Sarcasm and over exaggeration is necessary.

What's bad about that? 

Society needs to recognize that staying home isn't a cop out, it's a choice. Just as working is a choice. Both are valid, both are needed, and both make you worth just as much as the other. The hatred needs to stop.