Fuck You Cloth Diapers.

My oldest, obviously in terrible shape because we used disposables

Why is this a thing? It's bad enough having to change a shitty diaper (let's all be honest about how "crappy" that situation is) why would we add hand rinsing it out and then washing it in our laundry machine? Since disposables were created, or even the disposable inserts if you wish, a mother's life became about a million times easier. I know that I have a ton of stuff do get done during the day, adding in all that extra washing and cleaning would ensure I didn't have time for much else.

Besides, it's gross.

And, it's not that much less expensive, especially when you factor in the fact that you need to have the 250+ start up right there. I might have the extra 40 a month for diapers, but I won't have that. If you add in the soap and extra electricity for all the extra washings there isn't much of a difference. In my very humble opinion.

Just because they're cute

And breast feeding. I totally agree with it, I even tried it with both of my children before they were diagnosed with reflux and unable to BF. And the fact that I couldn't produce enough to keep my little chunker happy did have something to do with it. But why is it acceptable to push it? To make mothers feel like a failure if they aren't into breast feeding.

It's cheaper.

That is a reasonable point because formula is crazy expensive. But so is all the extra calories you need to consume in order to not waste away if you actually make enough breast milk to BF. Losing weight at a super quick rate isn't healthy, especially if you're not bigger to begin with and not all mothers are. (Because being big is bad too right?)

And maybe some people just don't LIKE it. Breast feeding is not as "convenient" as people say it is. You literally have to drop everything at any given second to put a child on your boob. I had a snacker (Or I just didn't make enough, see above) so I was BFing every 20 minutes for at least 30 minutes each time. How the FUCK is that convenient? I couldn't just pass her over to dad or sister or anyone else to get some help. I Had no choice but to always be the only one who could make her happy.

I wouldn't let her climb out the window so she was angry (but free range is alright, right?)

And really, it's not about cloth diapers or breast feeding. It's about society thinking they have the right to push their beliefs on me. To make me feel like I'm the bad guy, the bad mom who isn't completely selfless and devoting all my time and money to my children. Everyday something is posted or said about one or the other and I have to sit here feeling like shit because I "chose" to do neither.

Fat is wrong.
Super skinny is wrong.
Disposables are wrong,
Formula is wrong.
Ignoring your children is wrong (ok that one is actually wrong, don't do that).
Playing with your children too much is wrong.
Letting them entertain themselves too much is wrong.

Now there are words a parent should and shouldn't use to make their child grow up happier and healthier. No one wants little assholes running around but discipline is wrong and "love is all you need". There is hardly ever a wrong choice (finger in blender is an example of wrong) just as there's hardly ever a right one in these things.

There is 'right for you' and 'right for me' and that's alright.

In the end what matters is you and your family being happy and healthy. Fuck everyone else.